I haven't really stressed much about the logistics of two kids. Two seems reasonable, normal and doable, and I figured matter-of-fact talking about the baby would be enough to prepare The Boy, given the age difference. He's going to be days shy of 2 when The Lad arrives; he won't remember life without a brother. But then I was talking to my sister and in the background are two little boys clamoring for her attention NOW. And then I read this post from Clueless But Hopeful, wishing she had more time for everyone, including herself. And then I see a plea for advice for dealing with two kids under 2 on Motherlode.
And then I realized, "Crap. I'm going to have two kids."
The advice Motherlode readers offered, like most advice to parents, was often contradictory. Make time for yourself; just schedule your life around the babies. Pay most attention to the toddler; teach the toddler to be independent. Allow the toddler to help; expect to "baby" the toddler for awhile. The most useful tips, I thought, were the ones advising the mother to remember mistakes are OK and to not feel guilty for doing whatever works now. (Though, arguably, telling a new mother or, for that matter, any mother, not to feel guilty is like like telling the sun not to rise.)
I know, logically, dealing with two kids will be just like dealing with one kid: A total mess mixed with beautiful moments, with the proportions of each varying by the day.
But I started reading blogs -- and writing this one -- because I liked the community it created. I liked hearing from women who were going through the same experiences. So, at the risk of getting more contradictory advice, what are YOUR best tips for going from one kid to two?