Wednesday, August 11, 2010

Making progress

When I first found out I was pregnant, we talked about it constantly with Peanut, telling her she was going to be a big sister, that she was going to have a brother or sister and that mommy had a baby in her belly.

She was mildly impressed. At first she played along, sometimes throwing us a bone, claiming she wanted a brother. But most of the time she just ignored us completely.

I get it. She's only two so the concept of a baby in mommy's belly or a baby that would eventually live with us might be a little perplexing. Nevertheless, I didn't want to give up.

It seems to be working. The other day, while talking about it, she came over and kissed my belly, announcing, "I kiss da baby."

And now, in her prayers each night, besides thanking God for herself, she thanks God for the baby too.

I can't wait to see what a wonderful big sister she is going to be.

Any tips for getting toddler to understand that another baby is on the way?


d e v a n said...

adorable! We read lots of books about a new baby coming home and that seemed to help. :)

Hillary said...

Devan's right. The new baby books did help a bit. Naming the baby did, too, as much as I was against it.

k said...

We brought a baby blanket into the playroom and did a lot of swaddling Elmo and other stuffed animals.

Other than that--and talking about Baby Iris--we did a lot of hoping and praying that it wouldn't hit the fan when she came home.

Party of 5 said...

I've done it twice and both times it was as smooth as I'd dreamed it would be. Hope you have the same experience. I believe strongly in NOT letting guilt play a part. The toddler will have to wait his/her turn while you bathe, nurse, change the new baby and that's nothing to feel guilty about, it's how it is. I think that helps to eliminate any kind of potential resentment. Sometimes the baby will have to wait while you read to the toddler, etc. I always made a big deal about that. "Baby Lauren, you have to lay there and wait for mommy. I'll be right back. I am going to pour William some juice." Whatever. A lot of verbalizing went on...everyone loved everyone and there were no issues.